Hard to wave bye bye

Posted on January 14, 2008 - by Abner

A colleague of mine is considering to send a relative of his to a care home since it has been a hassle taking care of him lately. All I know is that he and his family have been running around the state over the past few weekends making personal checks on care homes for the particular relative.

Visited his house once when my colleague organized a potluck thing last year and unfortunately the relative was having one of his tantrum days. Well it was not that bad actually, for he just toppled a plate of jelly on the floor when my friend’s parents did not allow him to eat as it was not “appropriate” for his digestive system. Being the visitors we just kept quiet and pretended nothing happened though later our friend apologized for what happened.

Mmm… guess it’s a bit hard sending away a relative as my friend said that it has caused a little tension and brought mixed feelings to the family the past few days. Hope all turns out well.

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January 14, 2008

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Shih-gian said:

It is not uncommon in U.S. I know all the good values we need to preserve as Chinese or Asians such as care for elders, parents or relatives. But, we all have our own life and we could not be at home all the time to take care of them. When they are not getting the attention they suppose to, they will get hurt and we all will feel so bad. When I get old and in a state that I cannot take care of myself, I will admit myself to the care home. I just don’t want to be a burden to others, especially my children. They can come to visit when they have time. I don’t see anything inappropriate in doing so.
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mikster said:

I’d imagine this is a tough decision for the family to make.
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January 15, 2008

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xes said:

I think if the relative has devoted his life in bringing them up and take care of them, they should do the same to him.
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January 15, 2008

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xes said:

ops taking care of them!